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The Etiquette of Evasiveness
The problem with dating is that not everyone you like is going to like you back. And you’re not going to like everyone who likes you.Online dating exacerbates this because instead of being forced by...
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Can You Friend Your Date?
No, this isn’t about facebook. I’m talking about friending someone in real life.Let’s say you go on an online date, you see them for the first time in person and right away you just know it’s not...
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Saucy Stories from the Archive: Rock the Boat
As you may remember, last summer I spent two long, sex-free months in Africa . Needless to say, I was thrilled when I got back to New York. Not just because I had a date lined up, but because I had a...
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Ask Olivia!
Ask Olivia! Welcome back to for another round of Ask Olivia!, where I field questions from readers and share my thoughts and—hopefully useful—advice. Q: Are video games unsexy? A: In and of themselves,...
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You Always Find It in the Last Place You Look
Over dinner with friends tonight we stumbled on the subject of relationships that don’t seem to be destined for the long term. Sometimes when you start dating someone, things start out great. You’re...
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Guest Post: London vs. New York
I’ve lived in half a dozen cities and each one has had its own vibe and its own personality. And so have the people living in them. From slight changes in customs to major language differences, what...
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An Open Letter to Assholes
Dear Toolbags,When you go on a first date, there are only so many things—broadly speaking—that you can want going into it:1) Sex2) A short-term fling3) A long-term relationship(We’ll...
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Guest Post: Dr. J and the Princess
If you’ve been reading The Sauce for a while, you’ll know that every once in a while I post a Saucy Story from the Archive, a series which is less about sex in theory and more about sex in practice.But...
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Why I Love Giving Blow Jobs and Why You Should Too
The other night I was having dinner with a friend and he shared some very disturbing news: apparently there are still girls who don’t give head.(I mean “still” in the relative sense of at this point...
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The Cunning Linguist
My last article was about blow jobs.More specifically, why I love giving them and why you should too.It prompted a response from my friend and fellow sex columnist, Alice Paloma, which prompted a...
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Tried and True Tips for Texting as a Tool
There’s no denying that somewhere in the last decade we’ve transitioned from a society of talkers to a society of texters.For many things it’s great. It’s more discreet; you don’t feel like you’re...
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A House Divided Cannot Stand
Today is Election Day–marking the end of a long and extremely contentious campaign season. Over the last few months I’ve seen a lot of positive political passion expressed on Facebook and Twitter...
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Saucy Stories from the Archives: Hot Tub Hookup
After the Boy from the Booze Cruise and I spent those first few days together, we stayed in touch while he was back across the country and later gallivanting around South America for a few months. A...
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Ask Olivia! How Do I Slow Down Something That Is Moving Too Fast?
Dear Olivia,I would love to hear your thoughts on something that I currently have been debating with some of my close female friends. In my experiences, a girl seems to become extremely attached to a...
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The Ten Worst Lovers
The new year is often a time for new goals. (Or old goals, depending on whether or not you achieved them last year.)We make resolutions about everything from losing weight to being more organized to...
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A Heaping Bowl of Serial Flakes
Dating isn’t easy.You don’t need me to tell you that between texting, social media, our generation’s inexplicable phobia of actually talking on the phone, and the advent of this so-called “hook up...
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The Two-Headed Monster
Yesterday was Valentine’s Day, and whether you’re single, married, dating, divorced, excited, bitter, hopeful, or sad, it’s impossible to let the day go by without thinking about Love just a little...
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An “Ass” of “U” and “Me”
I rarely write about the people that I’m currently seeing.Unless it’s to use a specific sexy moment as an example, I don’t think it’s fair, or necessarily interesting, to kiss and tell. It’s my privacy...
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Ask Olivia: Is It Wrong to Be Turned On By This?
Dear Olivia, I literally abhor demeaning phrases and words toward women–stated in public–that use their sex/reproductive organs/gender as a way to belittle them, accuse them of weakness,...
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Five Most Awkward Sexual Positions
Imagine, if you will, a lifetime of missionary. It would get old pretty quickly, right? Part of what keeps sex from getting boring is the vast assortment of sexual positions that you can engage in....
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